Mindset is everything.
You're either a glass half full or a glass half empty kind of person. Although, it's not always that black or white. There are factors such as stress or pain, compassion or empathy that can inhibit your thinking and impact your current mindset.
I once had a client who came to see me for her chronic pain. She was also seeing a Chiropractor regularly and was told that Remedial Massage would complement her treatment. This client had suffered chronic pain for 5 years following a fall. The pain was isolated to her mid back. She was regularly taking high dose pain meds and sleeping pills, seeing a pain specialist and having regular cortisone injections into her spine. She continued to work full time, yet knew that it was contributing to her pain and muscle tightness.
Every fortnight for 8 months this client would come to see me after her Chiro adjustment. Every fortnight it was the same. No she had not done the exercises, no she had not stretched, no she had not sought out the chronic pain support group I had recommended and no she was not doing anything else to help herself. Her glass was beyond half empty, it was completely empty. And she was so disconnected with her body and herself, that she just put up with it and resigned herself to a life of pain.
I knew that I could not fix this person. Fixing people is not my job, even though many people do come thinking I can fix them. I had been hoping that I could help to educate and empower her to seek out a more holistic approach. In my mind I was thinking transpersonal counselling and art therapy, hyrdotherapy along with the Chiro and massage. However, this client was so detached from herself and so influenced by her Doctor, that these approaches were not to be considered. I realised that this client would not change the way she viewed herself and her body or healing unless she really wanted to. I changed my mindset. I recognised her mindset and where she was at and provided the service that she wanted. The 30 minute massage I gave every fortnight had the power of intention, from a mindset of compassion to provide relaxation and stress relief, and that is what she experienced, albeit a bandaid treatment that lasted a day or two.
A few years back in Margaret River, I treated another client. A male who was living with MS. He was a business owner, a surfer, and regularly took business trips to China where he had a factory that manufactured his product. His MS diagnosis came about 6 years previous and had started to become problematic. This client had an amazing mindset. His glass was more than half full and he was determined to manage his symptoms and stay on top of life and business. There were times when his mindset would slip, and he would binge drink, but for the most part, I treated this client for 6 months, before he moved to China permanently.
Each treatment he would come into the clinic hobbling a bit, stiff in his hips and with pins and needles in his feet. We would do a 2 hour deep tissue whole body treatment with Frankincense and Orange essential oils. 30 minutes of this 2 hours was spent on his feet. Some days he would chat and tell me about his business in China. Other days he would sink deep into the treatment, emerging with a light in his eyes and a greater sense of wellness. He could walk with ease and would often leave the clinic to go swim in the ocean. I was in awe of his resilience and determination to keep moving forward, to do whatever it took to manage his MS. When he went away for business trips to China, he would receive acupuncture and traditional chinese massage. For the most part, he was able to acknowledge and accept his diagnosis and symptoms, and just sit with the bad days.
Mindset is everything. What is your mind speaking to you? Are you even listening or aware? I can confidently say that I have a positive mindset, most of the time. We all experience our ups and downs, our shadow selves and our dark days. For me, I am learning to realise that when that shadow emerges, it usually means I need some down time. To drop into myself and nurture and honour where I am at. Having a positive mindset is important, but so too is having a Mindset of Compassion.